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Upon small investigation of Alcoholics Anonymous, it’s quite apparent it’s one of the biggest misfits in society due to it’s cult-like recovery process and underpinning of religion as a corner stone. I was planning to write my own piece on this, but a good friend of mine linked me to this critique which is an outstanding read. Here are some of the ins and outs of AA that most people don’t know about.

Before I post the article, here are the steps of recovery:

1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, that our lives had become unmanageable.

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs

12 Step Program of AA – Thoughtful Critique & Analysis

Excerpted in part from Get Sober Stay Sober

Most people are unaware that the 12 step program of AA that has become the treatment model for all addictions has its roots in an evangelical cult called The Oxford Group. In spite of the fact that we have overwhelming scientific evidence that tells us that addiction has its roots in the neurotransmitters of the brain, we attempt to treat alcoholism and other addictions with a religious, cult-like, shame based support group, instead of an effective treatment approach for a serious medical condition.

Additionally, most people are not aware that Bill Wilson, the founder of Alcoholics Anonymous and the 12 step program, was still actively addicted to nicotine, caffeine and sex and engaged in destructive addictive behavior his entire life. He had not discovered a cure for alcoholism or addiction, he had only switched his addiction from alcoholism to sex, nicotine, caffeine, women and fanatic religious practices. He also fought intense cravings to drink right up to his deathbed.

Bill Wilson was a sex addict who used his position of power in Alcoholics Anonymous to take advantage of and use vulnerable women in the AA community. His sexual behavior was the cause of great controversy throughout Alcoholics Anonymous, but was kept secret so that it wouldn’t have a negative effect on the movement. It created a lot of conflict between him and other members as well as himself. The Big Book and the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions are filled with references to the struggles he went though with his sexual obsession. Bill’s insights were not divinely guided by God, they were the result of his struggles with deep shame and powerlessness.

AA has contributed to saving the lives of many people, including myself, however, we need to be honest about what AA does and does not achieve. We need to recognize its limits and be realistic about its effectiveness. Although the 12 step program of AA may provide people with a variety of benefits like social networking with similar people, emotional support, others who understand your plight, validation, hope and awareness, it is not an effective or complete approach for dealing with the true physiological roots of alcoholism.

The 12 step program of AA is essentially a support group. However, unlike other support groups, it demands that you attend for the rest of your life and engage in a variety of religious practices to be an accepted member. Like other support groups, attendance in AA should be voluntary and used as a transitional phase for early stages of recovery, not something you’re sentenced to for the rest of your life. AA should be like a parent — teach and raise the child and then release them into the world.

When Bill Wilson was still drinking, he was repeatedly treated for alcoholism in a hospital called Town’s Hospital by a Dr. Silkworth. Dr. Silkworth shared with Bill that he believed alcoholism was the result of an allergy to alcohol, not character defects or weak will. It was the allergy that resulted in uncontrollable cravings to drink and that to avoid the cravings you must never touch alcohol again. Bill W. felt that Dr. Silkworth was right and this is how the “alcoholism is a disease” concept came about. What we know today, is that Dr. Silkworth was headed in the right direction, allergy to alcohol is actually one of the crucial components involved in the addiction process.

Bill tried repeatedly to not touch the alcohol again, but was not able to succeed. His drinking progressed rapidly and grew so out of control and destructive that he was faced with the possibility of being committed to an insane asylum. Around this time Bill met another alcoholic who had obtained some sobriety by joining the Oxford Group, an evangelical Christian cult. He tried to convert Bill, but Bill was resistant. However, as Bill’s drinking grew more out of control and he became increasingly distraught, hopeless and desperate he began to be swayed by the principles of the Oxford Group, which included admitting defeat, taking personal inventory of sins, confession, making restitution, helping others, prayer and passing the message on. (Don’t these look strikingly similar to the 12 step program of AA?)

Once again Bill was hospitalized, enduring severe delirium tremors and being sedated with a cocktail that Dr. Silkworth used on alcoholics that contained a mixture of morphine, psychoactive drugs and a hallucinogen called belladonna. Shortly after his friend from the Oxford Group paid him a visit, Bill had what he described as an intense religious experience that convinced him God was now his higher power. The reality of the situation is that Bill was probably experiencing hallucinations, not having a divinely guided experience.

The Oxford Group’s primary belief was that humans were completely powerless and that all our problem were the result of sin. The only way to solve any of our problems was to completely submit our will over to God. Members consisted of the educated and elite and held meetings in hotels around town or in the member’s homes. It’s message was spread by the elder members teaching the newer members. This was the philosophy that Bill now adopted as a way to stay sober.

He then convinced another alcoholic, Dr. Bob, who became the co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, that this was the necessary path to remain sober. The two of them then proceeded to preach this message to other desperate and broken alcoholics. The very first meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous consisted of a group of alcoholics who were members of the Oxford Group that Bill had managed to convert.

After a while the Oxford Group didn’t want the alcoholics in their meetings because they didn’t fit in with the elite and educated crowd they were targeting, so Bill W. and Dr. Bob took their alcoholics and formed their own Oxford Group, which they called Alcoholics Anonymous. They took all the principles of the Oxford group and presented them as the 12 step program of AA. They replaced the word “sin” with character defects and shortcomings.

Most people are also not aware, that the 12 step program of AA is not very successful, as a matter of fact, the 12 Step program of AA is pretty much a failure. Statistics that are reliable and consistent are difficult to find, because they are heavily influenced by an unwillingness to share the truth about drinking behaviors and who conducts the research. However, the most reliable research reveals that the success rate ranges somewhere between .01 and 2.5 percent for long-term sobriety. Long-term sobriety is defined as more than five years. Other research teaches us that approximately.05 percent of all alcoholics quit drinking without any type of treatment, so this means that the 12 step program of AA is not even as successful as spontaneous remission.

Alcoholism is a physical disease. Even traditional treatment centers acknowledge this fact to some degree; however, they continue to treat it as if it were a spiritual or psychological disease. Why is that? We don’t send people with cancer or heart disease to meetings and suggest they work on their character flaws as their primary method of treatment. We may suggest a person with cancer or other chronic health conditions attend a support group or get some psychological counseling to help them cope and provide emotional support throughout the treatment process, but that would be in addition to treatment, not in place of it. To use a support group or psychological counseling as the sole source of treatment for a physical disease is absurd.

We don’t tell anyone with cancer, diabetes, multiple sclerosis, arthritis or cardiovascular disease to get right with God or blame their condition on the state of their morality or spirituality. When was the last time anyone with one of the aforementioned conditions or any other physical disease besides alcoholism or addiction was told they must give their will and life over to a higher power, make a list of their sins, confess them to a group member, make restitution and engage in community service if they want to heal their health issues? When was the last time any of them were told the treatment protocol did not work because they are incapable of being honest, just not sick enough or in denial?

When the 12 step program of AA does work, which is rare, it is largely because it always feels better to have others who are like you to support, accept and encourage you. This is true of any challenge or hurdle in life. We can overcome many things with love and support from others who understand us. However, like any physical disease, since the physiological aspect of addiction has never been addressed, relapse is almost certain.

Additionally, the 12 step program of AA sometimes works because it provides someone whose life has been shattered by alcoholism with structure and direction. It’s similar to the placebo effect, in that it doesn’t really matter what the program consists of, it could be 3 steps, 2 steps, or whatever, it’s simply a matter of being given a clear-cut path to follow that instills a false sense of protection and certainty in an unsafe and uncertain world.

People who are in severe emotional distress, personal or physical crises, or an extreme state of desperation will radically change their belief systems and grasp at straws by adopting views they normally consider irrational or ridiculous and may experience a religious conversion. However, once the immediate crises pass and the desperation weakens, it’s difficult to continue to justify their participation in the activity and they drift away. Which is why we see so many people come into the 12 step program of AA who initially look like they will make it, or “get the program,” but then walk out the doors. Some people are able to be shamed and guilted into staying sober for a period of time, but since shame is also at the root of perpetuating addiction, this method does not work in the long run.

Powerlessness is Counterproductive

In the 12 step program of AA, you admit you’re powerless, you give your power to God, list your sins, confess your sin, make restitution, engage in prayer, meditation and service to the program. We’re very clearly talking about a religious conversion here — not a treatment for addiction. The sole purpose of the 12 steps is to induce guilt and shame in attempt to change and control behavior; which is another contributing factor to why so many people can’t succeed through 12 steps. Shame and guilt only produce low self-esteem and encourage self-destructive behavior like drinking and drugs rather than healthy, loving behavior towards self.

The whole powerlessness concept came from two places. It was a core concept of the Oxford Group that Bill had internalized and, therefore, it became one of his core feelings. There is no scientific evidence or even common sense that says admitting we’re powerless is effective in healing any physical health disease.

Quite the contrary — It is counterproductive. The powerlessness concept was what the Oxford Group (cult) used to control, manipulate and retain members by making them completely dependent upon the group and that’s what it ended up doing in the 12 step program of AA as well.

Instilling a sense of powerlessness in an individual is destructive to self-esteem, teaches and perpetuates learned helplessness, perpetuates hopelessness, prevents one from taking personal responsibility and encourages a self-fulfilling prophecy that in the case of alcoholism or addiction often leads to binge drinking and justification for the binge. “If I’m powerless, I guess there’s nothing I can do about it, so I might as well drink myself to death,” is what the alcoholic mind concludes. Some studies indicate that the powerlessness concept actually increases binging behavior and relapse.

It is completely disempowering, which is insane, because what the alcoholic or addict needs more than anything is to feel empowered. They need to feel capable of changing their life. Not only that, it’s a complete lie. When the alcoholic understands that the true root of alcoholism lies in biochemistry and there are ways to correct it, they are given all the tools needed to overcome their addiction and the shame so often associated with being an alcoholic. Being an alcoholic is no longer a moral issue, a character flaw, a spiritual illness, a defect in spirit or a personality disorder. It frees them.

Does an alcoholic have to admit they have a problem? Absolutely, but there is a very big difference between admitting you have a problem and submitting to complete powerlessness. It’s impossible to overcome any problem if one does not admit it exists, so yes it is a crucial first step. However, powerlessness is not an essential component of that first step.

Another important point is that there is a very big difference between spirituality and religion and even though AA and 12 step treatment centers deny it vehemently, the 12 step program of AA is a religious program, not a spiritual one. Religion involves practices and beliefs that include a higher power or God, while spirituality is focused on finding purpose and meaning in your life, the relationship you have with yourself, those around you and the Universe. The 12 step program of AA is clearly categorized in the category of religion.

Cult-Like & Brainwashing Behaviors

Then there is the cult issue. “A cult typically refers to a cohesive social group devoted to beliefs or practices that the surrounding culture considers outside the mainstream, with a notably positive or negative popular perception.” They engage in a variety of behaviors like mind control and intimidation, they thrive on creating a sense of powerlessness in the member, the operate as a closed system with, they are rigid, dogmatic and authoritarian, believe their way is the only way, require complete submission of the will to God, are built on a charismatic leader that is revered and worshipped and engage in elaborate religious rituals with a strong emphasis on prayer, to name a few. The 12 step program of AA fits this definition like a glove and engage in each and every one of these cult-like behaviors.

We also have the brainwashing aspect. Brainwashing (also known as thought reform or as re-education) consists of any effort aimed at instilling certain attitudes and beliefs in a person — beliefs sometimes unwelcome or in conflict with the person’s prior beliefs and knowledge, in order to affect that individual’s value system and subsequent thought-patterns and behaviors.

This is a clear definition of exactly what goes on in AA and 12 step treatment programs. The whole success of the program hinges on whether the alcoholic will buy their beliefs and adopt them as their own value system and think and behave in a particular manner. Just like prisoners of war or others subjected to brainwashing, when the alcoholic is resistant, they are confronted with hostile, angry confrontations, threats of relapse, failure, accusations of being in denial, not ready, or incapable of honesty, rejection and even death.

Although traditional treatment and the 12 step program of AA employ cult-like behaviors and practice brainwashing, I don’t believe they do so with evil or harmful intentions. I believe that at the heart of the 12 step program of AA is a sincere desire to help others. I believe they think they are doing something good, but then again, I’m sure that’s what other brainwashers and cults think. Regardless, the fact remains that whether it is done with good intentions or not, brainwashing and cult like behavior is occurring and many people are, rightfully so, uncomfortable with these methods. The problem is that it is misguided and the end result is the same. Most alcoholics and addicts end up without getting the help they need because they have been driven away by these practices that feel frightening or uncomfortable and because they’re simply ineffective for a powerful physiological disease like alcoholism and other addictions.

The other issue at hand in regard to the cult like and brainwashing behaviors and the religion issue is honesty. In a program that demands rigorous honesty, let’s at least be honest about who and what we are and the methods we employ and not attack the people who are uncomfortable with the methods and call it like it is. The 12 step program of AA is a religious program that uses cult-like practices; let’s just admit that.

It’s quite interesting that in spite of the fact that the 12 step program of AA and 12 step treatment centers claim to be an open-minded and accepting group, everyone defends this program to the death with angry, defensive, sometimes hostile, vicious and vengeful attacks against people who dare say anything negative about the program, question any of its methods or beliefs or express any doubts or concerns whatsoever. If it’s not angry attacks, it comes in the form of subtle, yet clear, rejection and disapproval. The message is very clear that if you do not believe 100 percent, you are not accepted. I have come face to face personally with this experience many times.

This illustrates one of the cult-like behaviors very clearly. Additionally, this behavior serves to protect their reality. They need to feel validated and certain that they are following the right path, so voices of the non-believers cannot be permitted because they threaten their sobriety.

Last but not least, every principle and technique used in the 12 step program of AA not only promotes but also ensures dependence upon the program. One addiction is replaced with another — alcoholism for meetings. Instead of helping the individual develop skills that they can apply to their life outside the program to live a full and productive life, they are brainwashed with fear tactics into believing they must attend AA meetings for the rest of their life or they’ll get drunk. They discourage independent thinking and, thus, the alcoholic becomes completely dependent upon the program and other members for not only their sobriety, but living in general. They look to to the 12 step program of AA for answers to managing all areas of their life.

The Truth

Scientific research tells us that the drive to self-medicate with alcohol, drugs, sex, food, etc., emerges from nutritional deficiencies, genetics, undiagnosed medical conditions and biochemical imbalances; not character flaws, mental disorders, weak will, personality disorders or spiritual deficits. Alcoholism is a physical disease with roots that lie in an imbalance of neurotransmitters in the brain. When the alcoholic tries to stay sober without addressing the physiological roots, then relapse is almost guaranteed, as the underlying biochemistry issues will push the alcoholic to seek relief in a drink. If relapse does not occur, it is temporarily soothed by engaging in other addictive behaviors like sex, sugar, caffeine, cigarettes or even the 12 step program of AA itself.

The biggest crime in this scenario is that there are actual treatment methods that are based on sound scientific evidence that can help the body repair these physiological issues and ensure a much better chance of achieving long-term sobriety. These methods come to us from the exciting field of orthomolecular medicine and have a success rate of 74 – 80 percent, and yet are totally ignored and dismissed by AA and traditional treatment centers who continue to use an outdated and ineffective 12 step program. If you would like to learn the truth about alcoholism and achieve craving-free sobriety that lasts a life time without AA or the 12 step program of AA, then I recommend you take a look at Get Sober Stay Sober: The Truth About Alcoholism.

Alcoholics have been lied to and brainwashed. We are not powerless over alcohol or the addiction process. You do not have to be sentenced to a lifetime of meetings and the 12 step program of AA. You don’t have to struggle with never-ending cravings for alcohol or drugs. When you learn the roots of alcoholism and are given the tools to address them effectively, cravings completely disappear and drinking becomes a non-issue in your life. I can say this because I learned this information first hand. I achieved 21 years of uninterrupted and craving-free sobriety without AA or the 12 step program of AA and you can too by addressing the issue of addictive biochemistry.

Source: http://www.alternatives-for-alcoholism.com/12-step-program-of-aa.html

Einstein once showed, through his theories of relativity, that time and space have no bearing on what a person thinks he or she sees. He also did a number of other things, such as clarified how gravity works, and is not merely a force which pulls things toward each other; he also showed that energy can be converted into matter with one of the most famous equations of all time, being e=mc² – now the basis for the idea of nuclear fusion.

One of the interesting concepts beside space and time, however how the human mind perceives something that is not mathematical. Bear in mind that relativity was not a new concept when Einstein was around, classical relativity had been around for centuries, and is merely the idea that what you see is relative to the position you’re in at that given moment in time. A practical example of this would be seeing a car driving past at a constant speed of 100km/h. To a person outside of the car, the car is moving at 100km/h, but to the person inside the car, the car is practically stationary because he or she is moving at 100km/h as well. If the person inside the car threw a ball in a forward direction at 50km/h, the respectful speed of the ball is 150km/h, however only the person outside of the car would see this. The person inside the car would see the ball travelling at 50km/h because, as we said, he is perceivably stationary as he’s moving at 100km/h with the car.

That’s a basic explanation of classical relativity. Einstein took this further and showed that time is relative, as well. That is to say, if the speed of light is constant and therefore all observers must agree that light travels at a constant speed, then the time measured for the distance travelled is arguable. Slightly confusing? Basically, using the previous example, if a stationary spaceship and a moving spaceship shot a laser, the speed of the laser would not change for the moving person, because light travels at a constant speed. But if the laser of the moving ship and the stationary ship is in the same position, and the ships are at different positions, doesn’t that mean the distance of the laser travelled away from the moving spaceship is less than that of the stationary one? Yes and no. Yes in the classical sense, but no in Einstein’s sense, as the measure of time taken for the distance travelled will be different. That is to say that the time taken for the movement will differ because time is relative to the person observing it.

Physics aside, this is not what the blog is about. What I’m actually interested and curious about is how the human mind interprets data if their given circumstances are different.

Understanding the idea that something is relative to something else is a real world idea that almost falls under common sense for most people. It’s quite obvious to most people that the reaction of a person is relative to the action imposed on him or her. But is it really? Imagine a person who is abusive toward their partner because he or she spent money that they do not have. In this case, is the reaction completely relative to the action? That is to say, is the abuse justified because of the woman’s initial actions?

Most people will say “no”. But if this is the case, then reactions of people are not merely relative to the actions igniting the emotional response. To understand the way a person behaves (and reacts) there must be something that another person can quanitify and relate to. Perhaps we are looking at the wrong idea, then. Perhaps we should not be looking for the relativistic action to the reaction, but rather looking for the relativistic emotional response; what is the emotional response relative to?

Human beings are indeed all different, and this is why the reaction of one person to the same action is different to another person, therefore reaction is most certainly not relative to action, but rather, relative to emotional intelligence. This doesn’t get us very far though, to say that emotional intelligence is the basis for how a person reacts. To fully understand this we must find what emotional intelligence is relative to.

And it’s very clear, actually. Emotional intelligence and responses are relative to understanding of the environment and world around us. This understanding is, however, based on upbringing and environment of the particular person. Right from the moment the person is born, the environment plays its toll. This is not merely the idea that abusive parents will bring up children who are worse off than other children, but rather analysing why the person’s parents are abusive. To understand this, we come to the conclusion that a person’s life does not start when he or she is born, but rather at the beginning, to when the environment started (the beginning of time).

This could almost absolve any human being of morally and ethically unjust actions, because those actions are not only a reaction of the present moment surrounding them, but the reaction of their parents upbringing, and their parents’ upbringing, and their parents. There is no end to the idea because everybody’s actions has a reaction, and those reactions are almost never directed at the initial person, therefore it’s past on.

Apologies for this blog entry, it’s a quick one and a lot of ideas coming out in one go.

Socio-cultural

We have very little control on the outside world, and on anything in general, in fact, you have very little control on anything in existence or reality. Your life is determined by the people around you, in your environment and by the little that they control. But you come to a point where you realise that you have so little control over your life and the experiences of your life that you realise that your entire existence is merely part of a luck in the draw.

What I want to do, for the purpose of understanding is work from the outside in. A man by the name of Urie Bronfenbrenner developed a theory which shows the influence on a child’s life from a socio-cultural perspective. And the understanding I have is that the most influential part of the theory comes from the outside. And this is how I’ll be talking about it, explaining how you really have no control over your life and, really, on your life’s experiences. PS: The diagram used in this article neglects the Meso System (talking about neighbourhood influence).

Macrosystem

The macro system is the most influential part of our current existence. The reason this is, is because the economic and political system govern and determine the other systems, and you will find that that is the case of all the systems, they determine and essentially control the systems below them – which is slightly surprising because you’d think that the influence closest to the child/human being would have the most influence, but this is not the case due to the control of the system above. Macrosystem, as you can see, is what includes political, economic and even some religious standards. The reason they are in the most control is if you are born into a country of economic turmoil, you will be in financial turmoil for as long as you are in that country, and because this is the way the country is, nothing you can bring to the table can change this. An example would be if you’re a brilliant piano player, or rather, you have the gift to play piano, you cannot do a thing with that gift if you are born into a country where no one can teach you, such as various parts of India where there is no economic support to allow the support of Piano, or even schooling in general. Countries which mix their politics with Religion will often have rules and laws which limit a human being from experiences, removing your Veil, as a woman, in the Muslim religion in Afghanistan is punishable by death. So in this sense, you really have no control over your life, and by explaining this of the Macrosystem, I’ve almost explained it for all the systems.

Exosystem

The choice of school you go to is ultimately the choice of your parents, as are a lot of choices in your life as a child. But at the school you are taught what is accepted by a panel of people known as the Ministry of Education. You really have no choice what you learn at school, in terms of Linguistics and Logics, religion is often a subject choice in primary schools by your parents. To be quite honest, I’ve never really met a person who looked forward to school every single day of their life, and the majority did not like school as a whole – and for good reason. You’re required to regurgitate some information which someone else believes is useful, and if you regurgitate is well enough, you get a piece of paper which states you’re academically not an outcast. But that’s for another article. As a child we attend school and generally we don’t have any choice as of what we learn. We have no control as to what is displayed on Mass Media, there are laws in place to prevent inappropriate material from being displayed. But if someone were to display something which was objectionable, the only real thing we can do is change the channel. We have no control over that.

Microsystem

Probably the more obvious realisation is that we don’t choose our family. Our family, no matter how good or bad, is there and we have no choice or control as to who they are, when we’re born. Our families often determine what values and morals are instilled upon us, and often our religious setting. As Dawkins would say, there is no such thing as a Muslim child or a Christian child; there is a child with Muslim or Christian parents. Which is true, children are not old enough to understand that what they are doing is one of many ways to do things – when you don’t know any better, your point of view is right.

Genetics

So we have half a conclusion, here. The life and experiences we intake are really nothing more than a chance of luck. But there is another important factor that makes up the person we are, Genetics.

Genetics are the result of our for-fathers and are most commonly known for reasoning the way we look. But Genetics are also partially (about 50%) responsible for who we are. It is said that Preparation + Opportunity = Luck. Well we’ve established that opportunity is a luck factor, because opportunity can’t arise if you don’t live in the right socio-cultural environment. But preparation – is that luck? Preparation is how you present yourself, your personality, how hard you work, who you are and what you have to offer as person. Guess what. All those things are Genetic. And because we have no say, choice or influence on our genetics, they are in fact nothing more than a chance of luck.

With that in mind you can grasp the fact that our lives are literally bi products of the people before and around us, and even ahead of us. We will change as our children exist.

Some of you may start to be thinking of examples where you are actually in control of your life, and maybe even the lives of others. The truth is that there are numerous other factors controlling your life at the moment, and as such, these things have a large influence on what happens to you.

I have the choice to buy a new car and that car is mine, I control the car. Well firstly you have the illusion of choice, I’ll come to in a second – but your control over the car is merely because the car is yours to use, not yours to own. You own nothing – owning something is an illusion as well. You own a car, what about if it gets stolen and stripped. You own the car, don’t you? How could someone take it and do that to it? You didn’t own it, you were simply using it, and you paid a large sum of money to give you the illusion that you own it. And I should rather say delusion because if you don’t know it’s an illusion, you’re being deluded. You own a house – the house catches a light and burns to the ground. Your control over what happens to these material objects which you think you have control over is completely illusory. You don’t have control over it, hence whatever happens to it and effectively you is due to luck.

Choice is a big one, you really don’t have choice in this world, and this should really be in another article but choice is nothing but an illusion created by people in power to keep ignorant people ignorant. You may think you have the choice to fill up at one petrol station or another, those are illusions because ultimately they’re owned by the same company, a company which causes you to pay a lot of money for something ultimately meaningless – and it is this materialism which factors in our ignorance. The people higher up keep us busy and distracted with issues which should be brought to the table. But these companies are owned by people who also have an impact on your life. As such when you think you have control over your life because you have choice, try to stop a sec and realise that this “choice” is not actually a decision between two factors, but rather the illusion given to you so that you feel in control – you have no control, your choice still benefits someone in a penthouse somewhere in the 52^nd floor of a 7 star hotel.

The bigger scheme of things – Acceptance

We mentioned opportunity briefly just before but there is another side to it, which makes up about 50% of success. Success is determined by luck, but there is another factor which, in itself, is also luck – it is acceptance. One can easily have the right personality and the right opportunity from someone, but it means nothing if after everything, you do not get accepted by the other party. Acceptance is a big thing though, because it involves around 6 billion other people all working on luck as well – so your chance of true success is actually quite a slim one, because people are individuals. If you think of the millions of atoms moving around in the sun which cause the fusion to happen, those atoms which collide are just as lucky as we are to find success, because of the randomness that is the universe.

So what do you do?

There are only 2 things which are truly ours which we have some form of control over. They are the knowledge in our minds, and our perception. These are what we can consciously change if we so wish and should change as we can, because without their modification we tend to live a rather dull and unhappy/depressing life.

To conclude this article, there is something very simple which you can do which will make you a much happier person, a much better-off human being. And that is to change the way you perceive the world. If life is a game of luck then 50% of things should make you happy, and 50% should make you unhappy, but if you can condition your mind to disregard things which should make you unhappy, then you will be happy more often. Life is a game of luck and hence will inevitably screw you over, but if you can take these perceivably negative actions done to us with a grain of salt, you’ll find that you’re generally happy more of the time.

When something good happens, rejoice, but when something bad happens, don’t get upset about it, because if you let yourself, your emotional state of being and in essence your well-being itself become controlled by external factors, you find that your pain and suffering is a lot higher than that of which you can easily disregard.